Getting married is a dream, but planning a wedding can turn into a nightmare if you fall into the classic traps. The biggest mistakes happen when couples get so excited that they forget about basic things, like the budget or the fact that you can't please everyone.
There you have it: nerves on edge, money going away faster than your salary at the end of the month and arguments over the color of the napkin.
If you're in this situation, calm down! Breathe, grab a coffee (or a glass of wine, depending on your stress level) and let's talk about the biggest mistakes that happen when planning a wedding.
Write everything down carefully so you don't fall into these traps!
Spending without control and ending up bankrupt
Guys, this one is the champion of mistakes! You start off excited, see those absurd wedding parties on Instagram and think: “My wedding HAS TO BE LIKE THIS!”.
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So you go and close a deal with a supplier here, another there, choose that fancy buffet, princess dress, live band... and before you know it, you've spent the price of a brand new car and didn't even realize it.
So, the problem is that many people forget that besides the party, there are other things to pay for: registry office, honeymoon, rings, the groom's outfit (yes, he needs clothes too!) and even those tons of hidden fees that appear out of nowhere.
The solution? Grab a piece of paper, make a spreadsheet, set a budget that fits your budget and FOLLOW THAT PLAN. In fact, prioritize what really matters and try not to be tempted to include every expensive detail in your budget.
Getting married is beautiful, but going into marriage mired in debt is not romantic at all!
Trying to please everyone and forgetting about yourselves
The guest list and family opinions are a real time bomb. There is always that one relative who thinks they have the right to have a say in everything.
“Oh, but what about your mother’s neighbor’s cousin? He’ll be upset if he’s not invited!” And so the guest list becomes a mass wedding.
Another classic: your mother wants a traditional wedding, your mother-in-law wants a rustic theme, your godmother thinks there has to be a live show… and before you know it, your party has NOTHING to do with what you dreamed of.
The truth is that you can't please everyone. And you know what? You don't even need to! This day is YOURS. So listen to opinions, be grateful for advice, but follow your heart and throw the party the way you want.
If anyone complains, be patient. It's your wedding, not a collective event to please everyone.
Leaving everything to the last minute and panicking
If there’s one thing that goes wrong in marriage, it’s relying on the “I’ll figure it out later” approach. My friend, if you leave everything to the last minute, chaos will knock on your door!
Suppliers sold out, prices skyrocketing, dresses arriving at the last minute and, of course, that despair when you realize you forgot something essential.
The biggest mistakes at this point involve things like: not trying on the dress or shoes beforehand (and spending the whole day suffering from pain), not checking the necessary documentation for the registry office.
Imagine if you are missing a document and cannot get married? Help! In addition to all this, another mistake is to blindly trust suppliers without doing your research first. Want to avoid this catastrophe? Get organized!
Finally, make a checklist, sort things out in advance and, for the love of God, check everything at least twice. The fewer last-minute surprises, the better!
Worrying more about the party than the wedding
This is a mistake that no one realizes until it’s too late. You spend months worrying about decorations, guest lists, menus, music, party favors… and you forget one fundamental thing: THE RELATIONSHIP!
Marriage is not just a day of celebration, it is a lifetime together. There is no point in having an incredible party if you spend the engagement fighting over silly details.
I've seen couples break up before the wedding because the stress was so much that the relationship fell apart. So remember: the party is important, but your relationship is more important.
Take some time to enjoy yourselves together, without talking about marriage. Talk about the future, your plans, and what you expect from married life. Marriage is just the beginning of a story, not the end point after the party!
The biggest mistakes when planning a wedding
So, now that you know the biggest mistakes couples make when planning their wedding, let's avoid these traps and make everything easier!
Set a budget that fits your budget, prioritize what makes sense for you, don't try to please everyone and, above all, remember that the most important thing is not the party, but the life together that begins after it.
Getting married doesn't have to be a nightmare. If you organize yourself properly, you can enjoy the whole process and arrive on the big day with a smile on your face (and without debt!).
Finally, let's plan this wedding the right way?